Dear fellow parents,
I want to talk to you about a word that often gets a bad rep in the parenting world: Selfish. One of the first things we’re told and quickly learn about being a parent is that nothing is about you any more, it’s all about the kids. There is no time or place to be selfish; a good parent is always selfless and never self serving. Well, I disagree. Sometimes, just sometimes, you need to be a little bit selfish.
Sometimes you need to watch what YOU want to watch on tv. Sometimes you need to lock the bathroom door and take a bubble bath. And sometimes, you need to leave the kids behind and go out – with your significant other, with your friends, or all by yourself. Take your pick! Yes, 99 % of the time you’re going to put your kid’s needs and lives before your own… but there’s a few reasons to leave that 1 % for you and you only.
Take care of yourself so you can better take care of your kids
I spend most of the day making sure my daughter is adequately fed, watered, and clothed. Do you need a snack? Put a jacket on before you go outside! When was the last time you peed? Sometimes I need to remember to ask myself the same questions. I’m a human being with needs too! I require food to make it through the day, I definitely get chilly if I go outside inappropriately dressed, and we all have to pee at some point. It’s easy to get wrapped up in caring for your child, but don’t forget to do a little caring for yourself too.
Easier to appreciate time with your kids
I tend to go through a weird mix of feelings when I’m away from my daughter. The joy of only having to worry about my own safety, hunger, and emotions. The slight, but unavoidable, anxiety wondering how she’s doing and what she’s doing. And then, no matter how much fun I may be having without her, I start to miss that darn kid! I start looking forward to seeing her again. Before I know it, I’m ready and excited to go home and have our five-hundredth tea party together. It’s pretty simple when you think about it. Time spent away from her makes me appreciate time spent with her.Time spent away from your kids = time to appreciate your kids. #thankful #parenting #love Click To Tweet
We all deserve me time
We all need – and deserve – time that’s just for ourselves. Whether you have kids or not, whether you’re a working or stay at home parent, whether you have one kid or five! Everyone deserves time where the focus is 100 % on themselves. What you choose to do with that time? Well, that’s up to you. My favourite way to squeeze in some me time after my daughter’s gone to bed? A glass of wine, a sweet treat, and something just terrible enough to be good on TV.
So, fellow parents, I dare you. Be a little selfish from time to time. Trust me, you’re going to love it!